The following lessons of love are taken from comments by our Facebook followers. Thank you!
And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.” Dobson: “keep your eyes wide open before marriage, and half closed afterward.”
Don’t compare your mate to another person, other than Jesus.
Your husband should be your best friend, but he ISN’T your best girlfriend.
Have empathy and never make assumptions.
Don’t blab your business. However, I think long time married mentors are needed for direction and guidance.
Pray and be patient!
Find out how he treats his mother and other female relatives then you’ll know how he will treat you.
Don’t change who you are for anyone.
You both may have issues or areas where growth is needed. Be patient and compassionate like God is with you and cater to their potentials not their problems.
Always assume your partner means the best.
Take your time getting to know someone.
Serve the Lord first…both of you. Secondarily, each other.
Always be yourself because in so doing, you exhibit your uniqueness which attracts like minds and will enable you to experience less problems.
Courtship is God’s way and a more safe way to stay in God’s will.
When in doubt…….don’t!
Know your worth.
TRUST should be the foundation of your relationship … AND don’t go out there looking for love. Let love come to you. The Lord already has someone in mind for you. You just have to practice patience and trust in the Lord – because when it comes, you will be the happiest person in the world.
Always focus on the good things about your spouse instead of the not so good things. Pick and choose your battles. You have to learn how to let some things go.
If it doesn’t feel right, don’t do it (marriage). Great advice for couples wavering in uncertainty.
Never let the sun set on your anger. Whatever issues you have, resolve it before going to bed; and never ever let your partner leave in the morning w/o a loving hug and kiss [no excuses].
Pray together… and for each other. When problems arise, talk to each other and God.
Never speak badly or be disrespectful to your partner. Be willing to listen and speak without judgment.
Keep it in mind that your spouse is a friend, partner and lover. So, keep the passion alive. That’s what my grandparents told me.
Be sure to put and keep God first.
Communication is a must! Talk and Listen.
If God isn’t in it, you shouldn’t be either.
What you allow in the beginning you should expect until the end.
Let God write your love story. Godsent is the best sent!!!!
Unless God changes them, past behavior is future behavior! If they do it with you,
they’ll do it to you!
Sometimes you have to lose the battle to win the war.
It is not just about what the other person is bringing to the table. It’s about what you’re bringing too.
My mama told me you have to know when to take out the trash. Even if it hurts, know when to let it go.
Be honest about matters. Always be true to yourself! Never forget it’s not just what you say, it’s how you say it too. Most folks appreciate the truth whether, they have difficulty digesting it or not.
Stop trying to change folks! And know that there’s more than one way to skin a cat…..2+7=9, 5+4=9, 8+1= 9 and 6+3=9 … Respect the opinions of your mate. You don’t necessarily have to agree with their opinion, but respect the fact that they too have an opinion.
Know that it’s not all about you! Don’t ask or expect others to do what you wouldn’t do.