You’re Just Right – For The Right Person
It’s amazing how so many people change once they get into a relationship. I’m sure you can name a few from your Facebook friends list alone. Don’t get me wrong, positive change is great, but if the change transforms you into someone else – there’s a problem. The right person should bring out the best in you – not transform you into someone totally different.
Be cautious who you become bonded to and who you say yes to. There’s a great chance IF you are not secure in who you are and love who you are, you’ll very soon start conforming your life to please the person.
Here are a few questions to ponder today. How you answer them will tell a lot about the person you are and the person you’ve possibly become in your relationship.
- Has the relationship made it easy for me to return to my old bad habits?
- Have I pulled away from the people who care the most for me?
- Is the only person’s opinion that truly matters now the person I’m with?
- Has my dressing become immensely more provocative or changed in another way?
- Is every social media post I put up, directly or indirectly, about him/her?
- Have I changed my career path from something I love to something he/she suggested?
- Have I started doing things I once considered negative or things that are so not me?
- Am I now living beyond my means?
- Have I ‘dumbed down’ myself to make the relationship work?
- Has there been a disruption in the order of my life? Has my life become discombobulated?
- Would I feel just as accepted by him/her if I didn’t do all the add-ons, spent money, or changed my behavior?
- When I look in the mirror, am I happy with the person I have become?
These are just a few questions I offer to those seeking relationship advice. With the exception of the final question, IF you’ve answered them in the affirmative, I will not tell you what to do – but I will tell you, in time, you will become frustrated. Note that the questions above are to be asked and answered in the context of your relationship.
Anytime you engage in a relationship with anyone that requires you to be someone else or return to someone you once was, trust me when I tell you it’s a relationship you should not be in. Always be true to yourself and NEVER lose sight of your authentic you.
Preparing You To Live Victorious!