5 Types of People who are Not Relationship Ready
Are you desiring a relationship? I understand the challenge of meeting the person who is God’s best for you. The list of concerns can go on and on. You can feel apprehensive, uncertain, untrusting, etc., and while I would never attempt to tell you who your soul mate is, this article will advise you on who he/she probably isn’t due to their current situation.
Also, If you are dealing with someone in any of these categories you should step back and seek God on how to proceed.
Avoid considering anyone who currently falls into the following categories.
1 – Wounded People
I’m sure you have heard the saying “hurt people hurt people.” This is indeed true. Until he or she has been healed, please do not pursue a relationship. A flesh wound heals much quicker than those of the heart. If still waters run deep, so does a wounded spirit. Please give this person time to heal.
2 – Codependent People
Most of us want—or yearn—to help others. This is wonderful but we must not support behavior that is detrimental to a person or ourselves. It is unhealthy. Codependent relationships are dysfunctional and stressful for both parties involved. Simply do not try it. Here are some symptoms of a codependent person. (Codependency)
3 – People Who Do Not Love Themselves
One of the most difficult tasks to perform is to give something you don’t possess. In the bible, Jesus states that we are to love our neighbors as we love ourselves (Matt 22:36-40). If we do not love ourselves, how can we love others? Unfortunately, there are those who feel both that they cannot love and are unworthy of being loved. These people are not ready. More than likely, if you engage in a relationship with someone like this, they will sabotage it later on.
4 – People Who Are Selfish
Selfish people will not be there when you need them the most. They are too consumed and preoccupied with themselves. They are egotistical and self-centered. Somehow they will always find a way to place their needs above yours. They are simply not ready.
5 – People Who Are Engaged In A Relationship Or Married
I don’t think I need to say much here other than both are off limits. Never forget the biblical principle of sowing and reaping (Job 4:8). As for the married, God will never send you someone who is in a covenant relationship with someone else. Find your own because he or she is not ‘the one.’
So you see, whether you are beautiful or handsome, educated or not, rich or poor, if the person you are considering fits into one of these categories, they are simply not ready for a happy and healthy relationship. Pray for them but keep your relationship with them on a platonic level. Finally, if their behavior is a danger to themselves or others, encourage them to seek counseling and remove yourself from the situation. Anyone within any of these situations wont be “relationship-ready” until they get help. If they never get themselves together, they will never be God’s best for you. I sincerely hope that this list of those who are not relationship ready helps you in your selection process.
Also, don’t forget to check out 5 Ways to Know if you’re with Mr. Right and 7 Ways to know you’re in a Relationship with a Godly Woman.