How To Avoid Relationship Hurt
If you want to know how to avoid relationship hurt, these seven tips should help you. Let’s jump right in.
1 – Stop building unrealistic expectations. We are who we are. Potential does not define a person; It’s what we do with it that counts. Furthermore, if a person is not cognizant of their own potential, it can never be developed. If it is not developed, it can never be realized.
2 – Stop giving your all to people who do not appreciate nor value you. A selfish person will always put your needs behind theirs. They are first on their agenda and will demand to be first on yours as well.
3 – Stop avoiding red flags. Listen, if it walks and quacks like a duck, there’s a 99% chance it is. If you enter a relationship and ignore the red flags now, you will surely be hurt by them later.
4 – Stop pursuing people who do not complement you. If the two of you are going in separate directions, with separate visions, and have completely different interests, you are “on the wrong ship heading in the wrong direction”.
5 – Stop pursuing people of different faiths. Your faith embodies the core of who you are and impacts every major decision you make. It will impact your children as well. If the two of you are of different faiths, it will make agreeing on many important decisions difficult and can cause disharmony in your union.
6 – Stop telling everybody your business. While having accountability partners is great for developing wisdom, you must be discerning about who is there to help you and who is there to harm you. In addition, steer very clear of negative people. They have the capability to sow discord and destroy relationships.
7 – Stop playing around. If you know you are not ready for a relationship, stay out of them until you are. It is important not to play with people’s emotions. I was told years ago that if you dig one ditch, you better dig two because one of them will surely be for you. My point is, you will eventually reap what you sow.
If you are already deep into the relationship and have been dealing with hurt, I think this article from Wiki will be great to check out: How to Stop Feeling Hurt. Here’s another powerful article on forgiveness for married couples from Focus On The Family entitled Forgiving When It’s Not easy. However, my hope is this article prevents you from having to deal with the hurt addressed in both.