How To Let Go of An Ex

I saw this online from an unknown source and thought it was on point!  My commentary is beneath each one.


  • Cut off the contact
No, you do not need to be friends.


I personally call this having the gift of good-bye.  Block social media pages, delete text messages, block phone numbers, etc. And no, you don’t need to meet up with them one last time for them to give you closure.  Sometimes this is exactly what you need in order to move forward.


  • Let go of the fantasy
People often mourn the relationship they think they could have had.


Well, listen – your fantasy is not a reality.  Leave would’ve, could’ve, and should’ve in the past.  You’re not missing out on anything.  What was, was and that’s something all the dreaming in the world will not change.


  • Make peace with the past
Forgiveness isn’t just letting an ex off the hook. It’s about emotional freedom.


If you truly want to be free, you must release your ex.  Do you know that space in your heart and emotions they’ve been occupying?  Well, it’s time to get it back.  It’s time to recapture your peace.





  • Know it is OK that you still love them
But love by itself isn’t always enough to make a relationship work


When the relationship ends and your love was authentic, it will still be there.  It takes time for those feelings to leave.  However, never forget that love won’t pay the bills; love won’t produce effective communication; love won’t stop someone from cheating; and love won’t make the person the best match for you.


  • Love yourself more
You can’t expect someone else to treat you better than you treat yourself


Biblically, we are to love our neighbors as we love ourselves.  It’s going to be a rather difficult task when we don’t love ourselves the right way.  Take this time to take care of yourself emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually.  Make that a priority and create standards others will clearly see to follow.


Check out my related article How to Avoid Relationship Hurt 

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Rickey E. Macklin
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