Key Relationship Questions
Here are some questions you should be sure to ask prior to getting into a relationship and most definitely before saying, I do.
Regardless of whether you are just getting to know your relationship potential, at the beginning of the relationship, in the middle, or in the engagement process, these questions should be asked and answers should be given BEFORE you say, I Do.
Let me start this list. Feel free to add on.
- Are you in a relationship?
- How long have you been single?
- Do you have a job?
- What’s your vision?
- How would you characterize your relationship with God?
- What’s your greatest passion?
- Why did you choose me?
- Can you cook?
- Can you fix things around the house?
- Do you have kids?
- Do you want kids – if so, how many?
- Can you have kids?
- How’s your relationship with the child’s mom/dad?
- Have you been married before – if so how many times?
- What was the reason for the divorce?
- What did you do wrong in the marriage and what could you have done differently?
- What are your thoughts about sex before marriage?
- Are you on prescribed medication – if so, for what in particular?
- How do you handle anger?
- Have you ever hit a woman?
- Have you ever hit a man?
- Have you been in love before?
- When was the last time you cried and why?
- What’s your view on finances in marriage?
- What’s your view on marriage and your vision for your marriage?
- What’s your view on divorce?
- How’s your credit score?
- Can you promise to always love God more than you’ll love me?
- Do you have a criminal history?
- Have you ever done drugs?
- Do you drink or smoke?
- Do you have a job – and how long?
- Do you have transportation?
- Where do you want to live when you get married?
- How’s your relationship with your dad and mom?
- How involved will your family (in-laws) be in your marriage?
- When you get married who comes first – your mom or your wife?
As one person so eloquently put it, “As much as you ask questions also LISTEN with your eyes!”
Listen to the answers, but observe their actions. Don’t blindly believe every response just because you’re convinced, they are a good person.
Check out more questions and answers on our CVD Questions & Answers page.
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