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I fell in love with the first boy I ever dated and then I fell into the bed with him. The next thing I knew is I was five months pregnant at twenty years old and standing in my pastor’s office saying “I do” to someone that I should have been saying “I don’t” to!
Be open minded. Life is very different once you are making it on your own. I know I’ve been there. Sometimes, it won’t go exactly as you planned. Don’t get stressed out or wound up in frustration – find another way around it. There is always another way.
Listen, I know we often wonder a million “whys” as to our current singleness and sometimes we even blame ourselves. We say things like: “What’s wrong with me?” “If I had only done things differently when I was younger…” “I got so much baggage no one will ever want me.” I happen to believe, however, that where we are at this very moment is all a part of God’s process.
When considering a relationship, consider one with God first. It is through that relationship we learn how to experience having relationships others. Learning about His unselfish and unconditional love, conditions us to truly love others.
Growing up, I found myself in and out of relationships mainly because I was seeking validation from the wrong areas. I wanted to be loved, cared for and ultimately I loved the idea of being “in love” and having someone to be there with you through thick and thin.
The discovery of him not being my future husband tore me up BIG time because I wondered how I misread God. I just didn’t and couldn’t understand what happened. I felt like I had covered all my bases – prayer, seeking counsel, and seeking confirmation.