The CVD Blog
Listen, I know we often wonder a million “whys” as to our current singleness and sometimes we even blame ourselves. We say things like: “What’s wrong with me?” “If I had only done things differently when I was younger…” “I got so much baggage no one will ever want me.” I happen to believe, however, that where we are at this very moment is all a part of God’s process.
When considering a relationship, consider one with God first. It is through that relationship we learn how to experience having relationships others. Learning about His unselfish and unconditional love, conditions us to truly love others.
Growing up, I found myself in and out of relationships mainly because I was seeking validation from the wrong areas. I wanted to be loved, cared for and ultimately I loved the idea of being “in love” and having someone to be there with you through thick and thin.
The discovery of him not being my future husband tore me up BIG time because I wondered how I misread God. I just didn’t and couldn’t understand what happened. I felt like I had covered all my bases – prayer, seeking counsel, and seeking confirmation.
I speak from experience when I say that for every man I’ve laid with, I tend to feel (almost immediately) like that person owes me something. That thing could be love, pleasure, or just mere respect by either not going around spreading rumors about me or sleeping with other women while sleeping with me. I’m here to tell you that sex is like giving away an intimate part of yourself to another person FOR FREE.
Don’t let your current feelings rush you into a compromised relationship with a man that only has half of what you want. Feelings change, my friend. Trust me when I tell you that you are going to want someone God ordained – NOT God disapproved!