Some say Courtship has lost its fiber. Some say it’s simply an old concept. Some say it doesn’t happen anymore. However, with all those reasons, this site apparently exists because personally, we don’t believe in any of them.
While the two (Courtship & Dating) are similar, they are not the same. By definition alone, they are different.
Courtship vs Dating
o Courtship is entered into with the intent of a commitment – prayerfully leading to marriage. Although it may happen more than once, the idea is being with the right person and going through the process of that eventually advances to marriage.
o Dating on the other hand, although in some cases may lead in that direction, is done with a number of reasons in mind – none of which may include marriage. For example, dating is done to simply get out the house, to have noncommittal fun, to engage in sexual activity, an attempt to quell one’s loneliness, etc, etc, etc
From a Biblical point of view, marriage is the central focus of relationships – not simply finding someone to hang out with. In its intent, courtship closely aligns with the biblical model and that is a husband/wife/family. In regards to agape (God-kind of unselfish love), by all means, this type of love should be a part of the Courtship Process. Dating does no justice to this kind of love.
Dating is often selfish. The focus is typically on YOU, on what makes YOU happy and what you can do for ME. Courtship on the other hand, is YOU becoming the best person you can be and being a blessing, serving the one you plan to spend the rest of your life with … In Courtship, it’s not what you can do for me, but rather what we can do for each other.